If you’re anything like the woman I used to be, you’re exhausted.
In my late twenties, after my devastating breakup, I kept wondering why my soulmate wasn’t showing up. I felt like a good, kind, loving person. What was the block?
The I discovered the tough, soul-shaking truth: The universe cannot deliver your divine partner into a life that is still packed with past pain.
Our true purpose is to become the “love of our dreams” by following our inner guidance. This means clearing all the clutter (the emotional baggage) so your inner compass can actually guide you to your love.
The moment I started clearing these seven types of baggage, my energy shifted from Seeking to Receiving. And that’s when my husband, James, finally found his way to my coffee shop table.
1. The Soul Tie to the Past Partner
This is the sneaky killer of future love. This isn’t just missing your ex; it’s that energetic hook (The Soulmate Secret calls it “Unhooking the Past”) that keeps a piece of your energy field tethered to a previous relationship. You may be physically single, but energetically, you’re still taken.
- The Block: You are energetically telling the Universe, “My best love is behind me.”
- The Vibe: Attachment, obsession, and an inability to truly see new men clearly.
2. The Debt of Unforgiveness
This is holding a grudge against anyone who has ever hurt you. That flaky date, the one who cheated, or even your parents. Unforgiveness is an energetic anchor that keeps your vibration low and heavy. It keeps you fixed on pain, not possibility.
- The Block: Your heart chakra is closed and guarded. You are telling the Universe that love equals pain, and it is protecting you by keeping new, healthy love away.
- The Vibe: Resentment, bitterness, and a hyper-vigilance for red flags.
3. The Weight of Comparison
Stop comparing your single journey to your engaged best friend’s!
The moment you scroll social media and whisper, “Why is it so easy for her, but not for me?” you are telling the Universe that you are lacking. This stems from a deep-seated place of not trusting your own worth or your own Divine Timing.
- The Block: Lack, scarcity, and a feeling that your journey is flawed.
- The Vibe: Jealousy, self-pity, and a failure to appreciate your own progress.
4. The Fear of True Intimacy
We talk about wanting a soulmate, but often, the most significant baggage is the fear of what it will cost us. True, soul-level love requires vulnerability, compromise, and letting go of control. If deep down you are terrified of being truly seen, truly rejected, or truly consumed by another person, you will unconsciously sabotage every good connection.
- The Block: Self-sabotage, pushing away genuine connection, and intellectualizing feelings.
- The Vibe: Control, aloofness, and emotional walls.
5. The Belief of Unworthiness (The Inner Critic)
This is the hardest piece of baggage to spot because it sounds like your own voice. It’s the inner monologue that says, “I’m too fat to be loved,” or “I’m too damaged,” or “I waited too long.” This is your self-concept holding you captive.
- The Block: The Inner Mirror principle states that your external reality reflects your internal belief. If you don’t believe you are lovable, you cannot manifest a loving partner.
- The Vibe: Neediness, seeking external validation, and chronic dissatisfaction with self.
6. The “Feathering the Nest” Clutter
Yes, I’m talking about physical stuff! As a Practical Mystic, I know the outer world reflects the inner. If your home is crammed, chaotic, and has zero space for another person’s presence (an overflowing closet, a nightstand piled with your things), you are sending a clear signal: “No Vacancy.”
- The Block: Physical and energetic congestion that prevents new energy from flowing in.
- The Vibe: Resistance to change, feeling scattered, and an inability to commit to a clean slate.
7. The Desperation Disguised as “Taking Action”
When I was single, I was constantly “taking action”—swiping for hours, checking my phone religiously, and forcing myself to go to events I hated. This wasn’t inspired action; it was desperation dressed up as faith.
Desperation is a low vibration. The Universe responds not to how hard you try, but to how aligned you are.
- The Block: Chasing, force, and a fundamental lack of trust in Divine Timing.
- The Vibe: Anxiety, exhaustion, and perceived lack of control.
Beautiful soul, the great news is that you don’t have to carry this weight another day.
When I finally understood this, I stopped looking for my soulmate and started doing the deep inner work of clearing the path for him. This released my energy, raised my frequency, and made me visible to James.
This process of identifying, acknowledging, and releasing this baggage is the single most important step you can take right now to accelerate your Divine Timing.
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