What Exactly Is a Soulmate?
Before we get into the specifics of HOW to find your soulmate, let’s first understand WHAT a soulmate is.
A soulmate is someone you feel deeply connected to—emotionally, physically, and spiritually. It’s a person who sees you (and I mean TRULY sees you) for who you are and creates space for you to be your most authentic self.
Here’s what a soulmate isn’t: it’s not that one-in-seven-billion person who shares your exact taste in music, finishes your sentences, and makes every day feel like a romance novel.
And here’s the most important part.
Soulmate relationships come around far more often than we think.
The problem isn’t that they’re rare. The problem is that we’re not always available for them. You may not have the right mindset, or you lack the tools needed to visualize (and hence more easily manifest) the encounter.
The Soulmate Experience vs. Finding “The One”
When I first discovered the concept of manifestation, I was still stuck in the old mindset: that somewhere out there, my perfect match was waiting. All I had to do was manifest hard enough, visualize clearly enough, and he’d appear.
What I didn’t realize was that I was carrying around too much baggage.
Limiting beliefs about my worth, resentment from past relationships, anxiety about being alone.
I probably wouldn’t have recognized James as my soulmate even if he’d shown up right in front of me with a neon sign.
The soulmate experience isn’t about finding someone who’s perfect. It’s about:
- Creating the internal space for deep connection by healing your past wounds
- Becoming the kind of partner you wish to attract
- Staying open and present instead of bringing old relationship patterns into something new
- Recognizing soulmate potential in people who might not fit your predetermined checklist
When James and I met at that coffee shop (and yes, it really did feel divinely orchestrated), he wasn’t exactly the type I’d been visualizing. But there was something about the way he listened, the ease of our conversation, the sense that I could be completely myself—that’s when I knew.
How to Become Available for Your Soulmate
1. Release Your Limiting Beliefs
For years, I carried around the belief that “there’s not enough love for me.” Every time a guy I liked showed interest in someone else, every time a relationship ended, it was “proof” that I was right.
When I finally identified this negative belief and started replacing it with “I am overflowing with love to give,” everything shifted. The energy I put out into the world changed, and the type of people I attracted changed with it.
2. Heal Your Past Wounds
We all carry baggage from previous relationships, childhood experiences, and old heartbreaks. I spent years avoiding my feelings about my father leaving, about my college boyfriend’s betrayal, about every time I’d felt rejected or not good enough.
These unhealed wounds were running the show, influencing who I chose and how I showed up in relationships.
To get rid of all the emotional ‘baggage”, I had to go through a lot of inner work (therapy, journaling, honest self-reflection).
3. Love Your Whole Self
Including your body.
Especially your body.
I used to stand in front of the mirror and pick apart every “flaw.”
My stomach wasn’t flat enough.
My arms weren’t toned enough.
My face had too many lines.
How could anyone truly love me when I couldn’t even love myself?
Learning to appreciate my body—for all it does for me, for how it allows me to move through the world—transformed not just my relationship with myself, but my capacity for intimacy with James.
4. Practice Being Present
So many of us are either dwelling in past hurts or anxiously projecting into the future.
We’re on a date but thinking about the last person who hurt us. We meet someone wonderful but immediately start worrying about whether it will work out.
Your soulmate is in the present moment. That’s where connection happens.
5. Raise Your Vibration
When you’re living in a state of fear, scarcity, and resentment, you unconsciously attract matches for that energy. But when you cultivate gratitude, joy, and openness, you attract entirely different possibilities.
What really helped me was following a strict morning routine. Meditation, journaling, practicing feeling grateful for what I have. These simple actions keeps me aligned with the energy of love.
The Real Magic of Soulmate Love
The real magic isn’t in finding your soulmate. It’s in being a soulmate.
When you approach love from a place of wholeness, when you’ve done the work to heal your wounds and release your limiting beliefs, and when you can show up fully present and authentic—that’s when you become a magnet for the deep, soul-level connection you’ve been craving.
My soulmate sketch is still framed in my office (and yes, James really did match it in surprising ways). But more than any psychic prediction or manifestation technique, what brought us together was my willingness to do the inner work.
The universe will bring you what you’re ready for. Not what you think you want, but what you’re energetically aligned with.
So the question isn’t “Where is my soulmate?”
The question is: “Am I ready to receive them?”
Your Next Steps On This Journey
You’ve already taken the first step by being here, by opening your heart to the possibility that your soulmate exists and is looking for you too.
But knowing about soulmates and actually manifesting yours are two different things.
How do you move beyond vague affirmations and truly create the specific, energetic match that will draw him in effortlessly?
I have something special prepared for you…
A free guide called “The Soulmate Clarity Blueprint”, in which you will find the exact process (both the pre-work and the post-work) that led me to my husband, James, into a simple, three-step guide.
In the guide, you’ll discover:
- The exact inner work process I used to heal my heart and become energetically available
- The visualization technique that helped me recognize James when he appeared
- The resources I personally used and recommend (including where I got my soulmate sketch)
- A 30-day action plan to shift from wanting to having
- The red flags vs. soulmate signs checklist (so you don’t miss him when he shows up)
Ready to do the inner work that will transform your love life? Download my free guide: “The Soulmate Clarity Blueprint” and start your journey today.
I hope that this will be the final key that unlocks your ability to recognize and receive your soulmate.
With love and divine timing,
Anya
P.S. Remember, beautiful soul, you don’t have to have it all figured out. You don’t need to be perfect or completely healed. You just need to be willing to grow, to stay open, and to believe that the love you desire is already making its way to you.